When Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment is, he responded by saying, (Mark 12) "Love your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind." Love then means one is to put another's needs before that of our own. Jesus says that we must lose ourselves (Matt. 10:39) "Those who find their lives will lose them, and those who lose their lives because of me will find them." That is, we are to allow our Lord to have his needs first in our lives, then the result will be that we will find life. Isn't that what love is all about, putting another's needs, wants and desires ahead of our own? It is done because we love them. Sometimes it can be painful, but dying to self is never easy, but the results are beyond joy.