Watching a little child, you might have seen them struggle, "Self can do it!" and not want your help. But, you patiently wait for them to try a sometimes overwhelming task and you can't interfere until they admit that they need your assistance. Like the gentle parent, God waits patiently for us to reach up to him for help.
I have come to realize at those times that God is always there to help me, and so I call on him (sometimes reluctantly) to help me. I need, at times, to remind myself that I am his child, and like a child, I need to admit that I need his help to see a way through my troubles.